SPIRIT: become unlikable

MEMOIRS

Jun 23

Being liked feels good in the moment but living a life on the basis that others must like you will cage your spirit. Have the courage to set her free.

Several years ago, someone told me I needed to stop wearing my heart on my sleeve.

I was too open.

Too transparent.

Too exposed.

“Un-likeable” in fact.

I needed to hide certain feelings and emotions way.

Simply, I was too much.

And so I did.

I moulded myself into the good girl who could conform.

And conform I did.

I repressed those feelings and dulled the light so I could please others and make their lives easier. I watched what I said in moments of challenge and I shy-ed away from speaking my truth in situations where I really needed to stand up.

But what I soon realised was that this new-found conformity was silently killing me from the inside out.

My spirit was repressed and I no longer felt like me.

Just a watered down modified version that more people “liked”.

I had become safe.

But safety and growth never really go hand in hand, and so, after a period of depression that almost killed me, I made a conscious decision to start wearing my heart on my sleeve again.

I put it all out there.

I lost a lot in the process but in reality I had gained so much.

Because I had Me back.

Always wear your heart on your sleeve.

I give you permission.

It’s okay to be vulnerable.

It’s okay to be un-likeable.

Your soul will thank you.